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The one change that worked: I told the men in my life I loved them – and my world opened up
At first I felt uncomfortable telling my dad, brother and friends how I felt. But I soon found it liberating, and once I started, I couldn’t stop Until my thirties, I didn’t tell my brothers or my dad that I loved them. I had never told my friends, whom I love, that I loved them. Not in person, at least. Certainly not sober. I had no problem expressing love to women: my partner, cousins, a mate I sort of liked, the neighbour’s cat. “Love you, Mum,” I’d say, waving goodbye. “And see you later, Dad.” The barrier to intimacy between brothers, male friends, fathers and sons, felt natural, a fact of life. It seemed to be a trait of modern men, one that I’d never betray. Then, in 2023, I made the mistake of reading books on masculinity. It started with JJ Bola , Ivan Jablonka, Rebecca Solnit and RW Connell, then I got carried away with Simone de Beauvoir, Judith Butler and Audre Lorde. But one
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At first I felt uncomfortable telling my dad, brother and friends how I felt. But I soon found it liberating, and once I started, I couldn’t stop Until my thirties, I didn’t tell my brothers or my dad that I loved them. I had never told my friends, whom I love, that I loved them. Not in person, at least. Certainly not sober. I had no problem expressing love to women: my partner, cousins, a mate I sort of liked, the neighbour’s cat. “Love you, Mum,” I’d say, waving goodbye. “And see you later, Dad.” The barrier to intimacy between brothers, male friends, fathers and sons, felt natural, a fact of life. It seemed to be a trait of modern men, one that I’d never betray. Then, in 2023, I made the mistake of reading books on masculinity. It started with JJ Bola , Ivan Jablonka, Rebecca Solnit and RW Connell, then I got carried away with Simone de Beauvoir, Judith Butler and Audre Lorde. But one
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According to The Guardian’s source item, The one change that worked: I told the men in my life I loved them – and my world opened up, At first I felt uncomfortable telling my dad, brother and friends how I felt. But I soon found it liberating, and once I started, I couldn’t stop Until my thirties, I didn’t tell my brothers or my dad that I loved them. I had never told my friends, whom I love, that I loved them. Not in person, at least. Certainly not sober. I had no problem expressing love to women: my partner, cousins, a mate I sort of liked, the neighbour’s cat. “Love you, Mum,” I’d say, waving goodbye. “And see you later, Dad.” The barrier to intimacy between brothers, male friends, fathers and sons, felt natural, a fact of life. It seemed to be a trait of modern men, one that I’d never betray. Then, in 2023, I made the mistake of reading books on masculinity. It started with JJ Bola , Ivan Jablonka, Rebecca Solnit and RW Connell, then I got carried away with Simone de Beauvoir, Judith Butler and Audre Lorde. But one
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